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  • Writer's pictureJessica McCracken

Resource Highlight: I Said This; You Heard That

Many of you joined us as we unpacked Ephesians 4:29 over the course of 4 weeks (if you missed any of the weeks you can check them out on our YouTube or Vimeo Channels). We learned a few things which we want to highlight and then provide you with some additional resources that you can use on your own, with friends, coworkers, your family, or a community group.


  • "Unwholesome talk" refers to two types of words: words that are not helpful and words that are unhealthful. So we have words that don't harm but don't benefit and we have words that are toxic and cause damage.

  • The words we choose to use should be words that "build up" based not on what I want to hear or need but "according to their needs."

  • Our words should be of benefit to those who hear them and the word there for benefit is "to administer grace."

  • We often weaponize our words because of discontent (envy), wounds and hurts (anger), hiding (guilt and/or shame), and feel unsafe (insecurity/fear).

  • To help us "tame our tongue," before we speak we should pause, surrender, and pour.

  • Surrendering to the Spirit allows us to maximize our tempermant's strengths and minimize our temperament's weaknesses.

Question: What is your top takeaway from this message series?

For further learning:

  • You can take the I Said This; You Heard That temperament test online or by ordering the workbook.

  • You can utilize the I Said This; You Heard That App which includes videos and other tools to continue thinking through temperaments and how we communicate and support one another.

  • There are additional video resources at the I Said This; You Heard That YouTube Channel. We'd like to highlight two below; just click on the images to view.

Question: What's one thing you can do next to apply what you are learning about temperments and the words we choose to use?

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